The Mad Scientist versus the Haters (who gonna hate)
One of the most important sayings of wisdom in our modern era is the phrase, "Haters gonna hate." These three seemingly simple words have given me perspective over and over again in many tricky situations. What others thought and felt about me was once a primary motivator in my life, and while I still struggle with this from time to time, it no longer rules me in the way it once did. I used to think that if I could time my actions and responses just right I could make someone stop hating or judging me or make them happy and that would make me a good, love-worthy person. I have come to see that trying to make haters stop hating, and judges stop judging, and to make others happy is never about me trying to be a good person. It's really me trying to practice mind control. I want to change the thoughts of another person, to control their brain, as if I am some sort of mad sciencist from a bad B movie. Once I saw how ridiculous and impossible my little mind control gam